Life would be boring without a few surprises and excitement whether it be in life or the bedroom. Some prefer to keep things slow and steady, while others love to spice it up and let their kinky imaginations run wild in the bedroom. However, if you have a partner, it is important to discuss your kinky thoughts and needs with them to explore safe lovemaking sessions.

But how do you bring it up without making things awkward? How can you make your partner comfortable with your kinky ideas? Don’t worry because we have got you covered with some useful tips!

1. Embrace Your Desires

First and foremost, it is important to recognize your needs before you discuss them with your partner. You must be clear about what you want in bed, how you want things to proceed, if you require any accessories (adult aids) to go with it. Once you are comfortable with your own thoughts and desires, it will be easy to communicate them to your partner.

2. Conversation Starter

To get the conversation started, you must create a safe space for your partner. Let them decide or mutually agree upon a perfect time and day to explore your kinky desires. This will help you break the ice and not leave you thinking about the perfect way to get the conversation started about it. The main idea is to be vulnerable and be open to your partner’s acceptance or rejection of your particular need.

3. Explore Your Ideas

Once you get on the talking part, you can start exploring different ideas. Let your imagination take over and discuss how you both can help each other enjoy the pleasing moments. If some idea scares your partner and they are not comfortable with attempting it then let it go. You can reach a mutual decision so that both of you feel at ease exploring your kink.

4. Communicate

Once you decide on a kinky activity, it's important to make sure you communicate with each other while attempting it. Don’t be afraid to say no if something is out of your comfort zone. Keep asking your partner if they like the stuff you are doing to them. This will keep you both on the same page and even help you understand what they want and what they don’t.

5. Post-Play Pampering

Once you are done exploring the world of kinky activities, don’t just stop right there. Indulge in some post-play pampering like cuddles, kisses, physical touches, and whatever you feel like will help your partner feel loved after the act. This will help you bond with them better and more closely.

Now that you have got the hang of how to start up the conversation about your desires with your partner, let’s dive into some popular kinks you might want to explore together.

1. Roleplay: Roleplay is one of the most popular kinds of kinky games that you can play with your partner. You can dress up as a nurse, school teacher, firefighter, cat, and whatnot to enjoy some exciting time before your lovemaking session. 
2. BDSM: BDSM is an acronym that stands for bondage, dominance, submission, and sadomasochism. It involves different erotic activities that help you take out your kinky side in a whole new way. A few BDSM toys that are famously used are cuffs, neckties, floggers, eye masks, chastity cages, and more.
3. Name Play: If you love calling your partner different names, whether it be mommy, daddy, or animal names, then you can indulge in name play activity to fulfill your kink.
4. Blindfolded: Some love surprises and love imagining the things their partners could do to them. If you both like the thrill of anticipation, then being blindfolded is the best kink to try!
5. Dominance: Dominance is another popular kink for those who enjoy taking control and having a submissive partner to explore their desires. There’s so much you can try with your partner under this category, from taking control of the night to giving orders. And of course, all of this needs to be done consensually.
6. Choking: As weird as it may sound, choking is actually a common kink that most have. It involves choking your partner to the limit where you reach the climax. However, this needs to be considered only after being cautious of what you are attempting.
7. Foot Fetish: Did you know that some can even get turned on by feet? Well, yes! This is quite common among heterosexual men. It might involve a person caressing their partner’s feet by massaging or kissing them.
8. Impact Play: Impact play involves spanking, using whips, or floggers to hit the body. The idea behind this kind of play is to enhance pleasure by inducing bearable pain.

If you have one of these kinks or any other such wild thought then don’t think of yourself as a weirdo. It is common to have unique desires and a need to fulfill them with your partner. Now that you have got the right tips to start sharing your kinks with your partner, dive into the world of exploration and experience pleasure on a whole new level!